My Family Is Not So Different Than Yours

Dec 03, 2021

My family is not so different than many.
 
We love each other and mostly support one another through ventures, achievements, misadventures, mistakes…LIFE with all its ups and downs and all-arounds.
 
When I think of each member of my family, I smile and recall heartwarming memories. We’ve been through a lot together. Billy broke his arm on the ATV at a family gathering. Some time back, Uncle Alvin slid into home base just in the nick of time to win the game. One of beloved nieces found her mom, my sister, overdosed in her bedroom. Several of us were the first in our families to graduate with college degrees. Quite a few family members have struggled with addiction. This year, a couple precious babies were born.
 
As a family, we’ve experienced much loss, some of it divided us and alienated us. Some of it, brought us together. Some of us, are not as supportive as others…yet. Some of us, are self-involved and don’t have time nor...
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Gratitude for the Smooth... and the Bumpy Road

Nov 24, 2021

 

It’s the day before Thanksgiving and on this busy day I stopped for a while, contemplated about people and what they experience.

I just met a grieving woman whose husband died suddenly just a few months ago. She related how she became very sick the next day and had to be hospitalized. She was ashamed of her fear and seemingly faithless behavior for a few days afterwards.

Her heavy-hearted spirit silently spoke with mine…and my heart reached out and held it tight for a moment.

I felt it. So did she.

One older gentleman I know, was pushed out of the home he shared for the last 15 years with his nephew, by his nephew’s new wife. He now lives alone in a senior group home, feeling rejected, lonely and a bit angry.

Yet another family I know received some devastating news, and life as they know it, will change and their hearts are broken.

Still, many other people and families are living their usual lives, preparing for coming holidays and celebrations.

I am...

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I Hope We Dance!

Nov 17, 2021

An impromptu visit from my adult daughter this weekend demonstrated to me, once again, that “Love is ALL there is”.

The mother-daughter relationship is deep, complex, and emotional – yes, a dance, of sorts.

If we allow it, it is easy to let old baggage, differences, and small irritations grow and develop into a huge cavern between us – making it impossible to stay in step with one another.

There are many explanations for this mother-daughter phenomenon, but we can talk about that another time. Today, I wish to share that it’s absolutely possible and worth working towards a meaningful and quality relationship with our daughters and mothers.
Both of us, my daughter, Amy and I, valuing and prioritizing our relationship above many other things (such as control, looking good to the outside world, self-centeredness, and being right), has allowed us to grow our patience, skills, and love.

It wasn’t always that way. There were many nights I lay in bed...

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Finding My Way

Nov 10, 2021

Rumbling with my own unrealistic fear and trepidation is nothing new, but I thought that I had long overcome much of it. So…it was hardly recognizable to me when it reared its sly head during the pandemic.

Faith and love are very slowly pulling me out of this darkness I’ve experienced.

Faith shows up in many ways for me. This time, in the midst of pandemic fear, faith appeared as a “knowing” deep in my gut that everything was going to be okay.

I have learned that with time, intention and love, I can make it through just about anything. However, this time, I lollygagged in faithlessness for quite a while before I chose to listen, accept the truth of faith and take action to feel better and get my life back.

Losing confidence and trust did a number on me. While I have visited this fear place occasionally through my life, this prolonged stay bewildered me, had me questioning who I was and what I was living for.

Dazed and confused, my eating, sleep, work and...

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But I Get Up Again...and Again

Nov 02, 2021

Living a few years on this planet, I’ve learned some big lessons that have changed me and my outlook on life. The pandemic and the overall political atmosphere over the last year and a half has been challenging for all of us and catastrophic for some. Many people picked up the ball and ran and some of us took shelter and tried to make sense of things that didn’t fit. I was one of the latter.

Thankfully, eternal truths have a way of letting you know they’re still around and still true – yes, eternal. Not that I forgot them, because I did not. However, I found that I re-learned them in a deeper sense… profoundly rooted in context and love.

Compelled to quickly share these  “re-learnings”, I have to say I’m more excited to demonstrate and write how they’ve changed me and how I’ve taken action to live differently because of them (hopefully, you’ll notice that in my future blog posts).

My Big 3

Fear begets fear

Early...

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Shed Old Baggage

Aug 24, 2021

Don’t Pinch Babies!
 
All reptiles shed their skin and it happens at different frequencies depending on the species. It’s a thing, it happens whether they want it to or not. When they are healthy, the reptile has a complete shedding resulting in a new beginning of sorts.
 
We humans shed our skin continuously, it’s not necessarily “a thing” and we often don’t notice it.
 
Similarly, our psyche works to shed our emotional baggage and it continues through our life, our whole life, even when we’re over sixty. It’s okay to deal with really, really old baggage as it comes up. Face it. See it as it is. Come to terms with it. Let it go. Move forward a little lighter and more joyfully like a crab or snake or scorpion.
 
Processing our “shitola” is essential in growing into a healthier, happier version of ourselves. It doesn’t usually happen naturally; we make a conscious choice to go forward with it....
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Focus on the Light

Aug 19, 2021

Throughout my life, I focused on my goals and what needed to be done to move forward towards them. I wore blinders, focused on the target areas and made great progress, usually meeting or exceeding my goals.

Fast forward – life has happened. Lots of it! 

I’m not working as much or as hard. I have time to be more reflective, peel back and heal some more layers of my life….and it’s still not easy, in fact, it’s quite difficult.

The world continues to spin. We go through our collective ups and downs, falling apart and putting back together, and the pendulum swings to the highest and furthest edges.

Confusion and fear permeate the air. It’s no wonder that I am struggling a bit. 

Besides our normal life transitions and happenings, there’s a new, different energy and it cannot be ignored. 

I’m slowly making my way through, and sometimes it’s a bit messy and other times it’s energetic and...

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Unity - It's Personal!

Feb 04, 2021

Unity – It’s Personal!

With all the talk of division and unity, I’ve been thinking about my own life and how division and unity play into it. I believe that when I figure out how to understand and process my own problems, divisions, and quandaries, I more fully understand our social divisions and possible solutions.

What comes up for me is the loss of a friendship sometime ago. No doubt that this experience was a defining moment in my life and profoundly affected me.

My lifetime friend, whom I’ll call “Dorothy”, was kind and supportive…and always, always there for me and I for her. I considered her my family…my sister, actually…. and I know she felt the same.

The details are not important here (more on this in a future blog). The point is, we hurt one another deeply, broke promises to one another and betrayed each other, something we did not do intentionally, nor did we EVER think we would do to each other. I was devastated....

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2021 - Here I Come!

Jan 21, 2021

Although I have anticipated the new year, 2021, for some time, I’m late in offering a Happy New Year and sharing my intentions for the year.

2020 took me down the rabbit hole in more ways than one, and most of them had nothing to do with conspiracy theories or conjecture on politics.

I have implemented all the strategies I know to re-energize myself and lift my spirit, and I’ve shared these before –

- Reading great books

- Practicing gratitude daily

- Praying and meditating

- Listening to inspiring music

- Taking bubble baths

- Playing with the dogs

- Long walks in nature

- Learning something new

- AND so much more…

And they are working!

Little by little, I am reawakening and readying myself to move forward - a bit wiser, and hopeful for a new and better world.

One of my 2021 intentions is to get healthier. For me, that means changing my eating habits, stretching my body, and moving more. I also choose to shed some weight – actually, a good 40 pounds!

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Find Your Tribe!

Sep 21, 2020


A couple of weeks ago, I was fortunate enough to spend a couple of days with a few very wise women on our annual retreat in the cool pines of the White Mountains in Arizona.

We choose to focus our time on reconnecting with one another, facing and working through some of our individual challenges, and delighting in our moments together.

Quite honestly, I was not compelled to go at all this year for a number of reasons. I had many personal responsibilities that I would have to address, the restrictions of COVID-19 and when I really took a look at my hesitancy, I was feeling too tired and overwhelmed with life to self-reflect and move forward. I had not personally committed to the weekend until I threw my bag in the car and started driving the 3 ½ hours to beautiful Pinetop, AZ. After just ten minutes on the road, I was overcome with joy and light and I knew I had made the right decision.

I am truly blessed to have an opportunity to meet up with people I trust to discuss...

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