Enough is Enough

Using the Enneagram to Break Free and Embrace What’s Next

We all do it. We coast through life on autopilot, convincing ourselves that our patterns, our routines, our avoidance tactics are just part of the deal. We make the same excuses, tell ourselves we’re fine—until one day, we wake up and realize we’re anything but. Maybe it’s been months, years, even decades, but at some point, the truth smacks us in the face: We are exhausted by our own avoidance. We are tired of the same old routine, the same frustrations, the same version of ourselves that we swore we’d outgrow. And that moment, right there, is when we say: Enough is enough.

The Illusion of Control & The Reality of Choice

Life has a way of lulling us into a passive state. We tell ourselves we have no choice—our circumstances, our obligations, the expectations of others dictate our reality. But that’s a lie we’ve been selling ourselves. The truth? We always have a choice. The Enneagram helps us see that choice more clearly by revealing our subconscious patterns, the ones running the show behind the scenes.

• Type 1 (The Perfectionist): Caught in an endless loop of "not good enough."

• Type 2 (The Helper): Saying yes to everything and then resenting it.

• Type 3 (The Achiever): Checking the next box but still feeling empty.

• Type 4 (The Individualist): Getting stuck in longing instead of living.

• Type 5 (The Investigator): Overanalyzing instead of taking action.

• Type 6 (The Loyalist): Questioning everything and staying frozen.

• Type 7 (The Enthusiast): Avoiding discomfort at all costs.

• Type 8 (The Challenger): Controlling everything but never feeling safe.

• Type 9 (The Peacemaker): Numbing out instead of engaging.

Recognizing these patterns is the first step to breaking free. The second? Commitment.

What You Can Control: The Power of Intentional Action

Here’s the truth: You cannot control other people. You cannot make them behave how you want, think how you think, or give you the validation you crave. But what you can control?

• Your mindset

• Your reactions

• Your habits

• Your choices

This is where Mel Robbins’ Let Them Theory comes in. Let them do whatever they’re going to do. Let them judge, let them stay stuck, let them make their own choices. You? You focus on you.

The Game-Changer: Setting Intentions & Taking Action

Living with intention means deciding who you want to be—and then aligning your actions with that decision. Sounds simple, right? It’s not. It takes effort, consistency, and the willingness to stop letting yourself off the hook.

1. Mindset Shift: Stop Waiting for Permission

Thirty years ago, I was a terrified, recently divorced mom of two, unsure if I had what it took to rebuild my life. I adopted a simple mantra: If anyone can, it’s you. At first, it felt fake. Like I was trying to convince myself of something I didn’t believe. But the more I repeated it, the more it became part of me.

This is how change happens. You don’t wait until you believe it. You commit, and belief catches up. You commit when it’s inconvenient. You commit when the excuses feel bigger than the action. You commit when you’d rather quit. Because commitment isn’t about feeling ready—it’s about deciding you’re done waiting.

As Steve Jobs said, “Your time is limited, don’t waste it living someone else’s life.”

2. Morning Routine: Set the Tone for the Day

How you start your day is how you live your life. If you wake up and immediately scroll your phone, react to emails, or let your mood be dictated by external factors, you’re already on autopilot. Instead, create a morning routine that grounds you. Hal Elrod’s The Miracle Morning breaks this down beautifully—your mornings are a launchpad for success, and even small shifts can create massive change.

• Affirmations & Visualizations (Your mind believes what you tell it.)

• Movement (A walk, stretching, anything to wake up your body.)

• A moment of stillness (Journaling, deep breathing, prayer.)

• Reviewing your intentions for the day (Set the tone before the world sets it for you.)

Remember, “Motivation is what gets you started. Habit is what keeps you going.” – Jim Ryun

3. Take One Bold Action (Even When You Don’t Feel Ready)

The hardest part is starting. Do the thing you’ve been avoiding. Have the conversation. Say no. Apply for the job. Write the first page. The fear won’t disappear first—you have to move despite it.

“Success seems to be connected with action. Successful people keep moving forward. They make mistakes, but they don’t quit.” – Conrad Hilton

Being the Hero of Your Own Story

We talk about wanting change, about becoming our best selves, about stepping into the life we know we’re meant for. But none of that happens without action. And here’s the truth:

• No one is coming to save you.

• No one is going to hand you the life you want.

• No one can break your patterns for you.

But you? You can.

If anyone can, it’s you.

The Final Call: Are You Ready?

So here we are. The moment where you decide: Will you keep repeating the same cycle, or will you finally do something different? Will you choose yourself? Your life? Your future?

Enough is enough. You know what you need to do. The choice is yours. Will you finally step up? Or will you keep waiting? Your future is on the other side of commitment. Make the move. It’s time to break free.

Let’s go.

- Diana